Let me quickly tell you this: barrenness is a temporary challenge! And God hates divorce! Therefore, be fruitful, because God has already said it. I just want it to be echoing and vibrating in your spirit man
Out of all that were barren in the Bible days: Abraham and Sarah; Isaac and Rebecca; Elkanah and Hannah; Manoah and his wife; John and Elizabeth; none of them divorced. Even, Michal that provoked God’s wrath by doing her worst to the king was not divorced by David. At later end, each of them gave birth to a destined child except Michal, the daughter of Saul and one of the wives of David.
Though, one of them made a mistake of marrying another wife. And this was Abraham based on wrong advice from his wife, Sarah; and the adultery he committed was not deliberate, it was fully supported by his own wife. Please, if you want to commit adultery, tell your wife first! Are you laughing or smiling? And you wives, tell your husband to tell you before he does anything.
The question to trash out is, “is it correct for a woman to divorce her husband and re-marry based on the fact that they are barren and the man commit adultery deliberately? Does the Bible justify that?
This is a different case from that in Deuteronomy 24: 1 – 4, where the husband divorced the wife based on adultery she committed. In this case, we find that the woman re-married (Bible says, she may go and be another man’s wife – Deut. 24:2), but cannot marry the first husband again for any reason.
But Paul said, “And unto the married, I command, yet not I, but the Lord, let not the wife departs from her husband: But if she departs, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife (I Cor. 7:10 – 11).
Though God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), but putting I Cor. 7:11b and Deut. 24:3 together:
I Cor 7:11b – “… and let not the husband put away his wife.”
Deut 24:2 – “If the husband put her away, she may go and be another man’s wife.”
- It means, if the husband writes the letter of divorce, the woman may re-marry, but this is not the perfect will of God.
- If it is the wife that divorces him, the woman cannot re-marry; the only option is for her to reconcile to her husband (if not she has to remain un-married).
But, in a case where a husband is committing a repeated adultery to the extent that, the woman gets pregnant, and he is also refusing his wife, her sex advance; and at the same time, he is not providing for her, and he is beating her; it is a violent man that does that. He is already an infidel (an unbeliever), even worse than an unbeliever (I Tim. 5:8).
Based on this, I Cor. 7:15 says, “if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such case: but God also called us to peace.” This is an exception to the “till death do them part.” A man that beats his wife is an infidel (Mal. 2:16).
I Cor. 7:13 says, if the man (that has backslid – an unbeliever) be pleased to dwell with her (he is not beating her, or she can cope with the beating; he is satisfying her sexually, or she can cope without sex; he is providing for her, or she can cope without the provision), let her not leave him.
But if otherwise (if the man is not pleased to dwell with her), she can leave! Nevertheless, God called us to peace (I Cor. 7:15b).
“I hate divorce, says the Lord God of Israel, and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garments, says the Lord almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit and do not break faith.” (Mal. 2:16 NIV)
Once again, a man who is violent has broken faith, he has become an unbeliever (Mal. 2:16), he is the same as the man that does not provide for his household (his wife inclusive) – I Tim. 5:8. God says he hates such a man. He is not qualified to be a husband. And if he leaves the woman, the woman is free, she is not in bondage, she can re-marry.
But it would have been better, if the woman (a believer) is strong enough to cope and continue with the marriage.
You shall be fruitful! God has already said it, I just want it to be echoing and vibrating in your spirit man. Have a joy-filled day!