Sex is very sweet inside marriage, but very bitter outside marriage. It is like a bitter leaf; when you eat it at the wrong time, very bitter! But when eaten at the right time, delicious! It is also medicinal to your body. Sex at the right time makes you healthy, while sex at the wrong time makes you sick.
You and your children are not only to be financially literate, but also sexually literate. Knowing a lot about sexuality is not bad! Having sexual orientation is good!
Most people shy away from this topic, some parents and some religion institutions inclusive. Yet, it is a very important part of life that needs to be taught. We all say it is for a particular age group. If I may ask you, from what age can you teach children about sex? Can you see you are just thinking about it?
The reason why many adults don’t know what they ought to know about sex is because they were not taught at the right time. The first teaching about sex should come from parents, because parents are the first teachers of the children. The first teaching about sex education should not be from our religious institutions or any social group. It lies in the hands of the parents. The exact age of this teaching about sex depends on the growth and development of the child. Some children grow very fast physically, while some grow and develop very fast psychologically and intelligently.
These factors determine when sex education starts by the parents. It should not be fixed to a particular age. I have first hand information about two 9-year old children (a boy and a girl) having an affair. Some parents would say, “They are still children”; what they are supposed to have learnt from their parents, they have learnt it in a wrong way from TV Shows, movies, and their peers.
Sex is a very critical aspect of life that we need to take seriously, and educate our children effectively on. Sex has been found as the major cause of disagreement between couples, if one of them should have wrong perspective about it. In marriage, sex is not meant for procreation only; it is also to be enjoyed.
Sex is very sweet inside marriage, but very bitter outside marriage. It is like a bitter leaf; when you eat it at the wrong time, very bitter! But when eaten at the right time, delicious! It is also medicinal to your body. Sex at the right time makes you healthy, while sex at the wrong time makes you sick. If I were you, I would have waited for the right time. That right time is in marriage!
Both the man and the woman have their rights in marriage. Each person’s rights need to be respected. Men, women are not sex machines! But hear this, women, if you want to have a blissful marriage, let me share a secret with you. A woman asked a Marriage councillor, “How many times can I allow my husband to copulate with me?” The councillor replies, “As many times as he wants.”
I bet it with you, the councillor has given the most accurate and correct response to the question. If he has the strength, let him, as many times as he wants. Just wait and see, a time would come that you will demand sex from him, and he would be running away. He would soon be tired!
Sex education is very important in life; let’s teach it to our children early in life. Let it also be taught to any adult that demands it, if we have the capacity to do so. You and your children are not only to be financially iterate, but also sexually literate. Knowing a lot about sexuality is not bad! Having sexual orientation is good! Let us unravel sexuality, and teach it to the younger generation at the right time!
I wish you the best of marital life, as I wish myself.
Hebrews 13:4 – “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: ….
© 2017 Peter F. Adewumi