Scared of the Past? Everybody Has One

“He’s insane, He’s insane!” Everybody that saw him kept shouting. This was done intentionally in order to alert others at the scene to run for their lives. The man was running helter-skelter, and yet nobody saw what was pursuing him.

They’ve already concluded that he was insane. As many as they were in the market square, none of them took the scenery with a pinch of salt. But there was a curious man that really wanted to dig to the bottom of the matter. The more the mad man ran, the more he followed him stylishly and wisely.

There was a saying that, “he who a masquerade is pursuing should try to endure, and keep running, for he would soon be tired.” The mad man got tired and finally seated on a rocky place near a river. The curious man with boldness moved a little closer to him. He exuded this confidence since he knows that he had already exhausted all his strength at the moment.

He asked the insane, “what has befallen you that you ran without a pursuer. He answered, “It was an invisible pursuer.” “Can you shed more light on that?” The curious man questioned. I did something bad from where I was coming from, and I saw some people running towards me where I was having a light refreshment, and that was how I took to my heel. It was a surprise to me to hear that nobody was actually running after me. I didn’t even border to look back. All I was thinking of as I was running was to escape torture.

The curious man said, “You are scared of the past, right? Everybody has one!” The reason you see others moving freely is because they have taken the right steps to correct their mistakes. The question now is, “what can we do to be free from the mistakes of the past?”

  • A Change of Mindset: You have to come to the fact that in everything we do, mistakes are inevitable. If you really want to succeed in life, you have to learn to make mistakes. If you really exist, you will make mistakes daily. Whereas, there are mistakes that hurt others, and there are mistakes that hurt no one but you. “Like the way you were running the other time,” the curious man told the other man, “it depicts that your mistake had hurt someone.” Now, you don’t need to run from your mistakes. If you have a mentality that it is normal to step on people’s toes sometimes, you would stand to make amend. The first thing to do is to change your mentality about your belief on mistakes.
  • Seek Help: Seek help in correcting your mistake. We have come to the term that, you don’t run from your mistakes. Meanwhile if it’s a mistake you can’t correct single-handedly, you can seek help. We’ve said, “it is not a weakness to seek help when you need it, in fact, it is a sign of strength in character.” For instance, if you have wronged someone, you don’t need to disappear into thin air. What you need to do is to look for those who can help you to plead to the person you have wronged. Running away aggravates the matter!
  • Don’t Dwell on it: When the past mistake comes in a flash, don’t dwell on it, discard it. Sometimes, even the guilt of wrong doing that you have appropriated still comes back to your memory. If it happens, you don’t brood on it.
  • Everybody Makes Mistakes: Everybody has a past. Everybody makes mistakes. Everyone is not perfect. We have discussed this earlier, but I want to remind you again as I’m rounding off this discussion. You need not scared of the past. You don’t need to run away from those that you have wronged, what you need to do is to settle the matter with them. They would reconcile with you, because they know that, they are someone like you.

If you want to succeed in life – business, education, marriage, ministry and all of your endeavours, you don’t need to be scared of the past, since everybody has one.  What you need to do is to face your fears, and make necessary amendments.

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© 2019, Peter Adewumi

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8 Comments

  1. Hi Peter,
    Thanks so much for writing this. When I was struggling to overcome my alcohol problem, I had to face my demons and do the things on your list. It was uncomfortable, shameful and very confronting at times. BUT, it was the best life decision I’ve ever made.
    No one gets different results from doing the same thing. And your post really highlights this for me.

    Like

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